Pre Marriage Questions

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It is important to get to know someone pre marriage. Questions about her past, his hopes, fears, dream, and beliefs can help you to know your potential partner better. Some questions are often over looked and yet they may end up causing strife later on.

Contents 1 Pre Marriage Questions You Might Not Think About 1.1 Friends and Social Life 1.2 Domestic Bliss 1.3 Parenting 1.4 Finances 1.5 Religion 1.6 Extended Family 1.7 Difficult, but Important Questions 2 Why Ask Questions?

Pre Marriage Questions You Might Not Think About

Here are some questions that you might not think about asking before marriage.

Friends and Social Life

1. Are you going to continue to see your single, opposite sex friends after marriage?
2. Do you mind if I have lunch with my single friends of the opposite sex?
3. How often do you like to socialize?
4. Do you expect me to accompany you to your business events?
5. What is your favorite way to spend a day off?

Domestic Bliss

1. Where do you squeeze the toothpaste tube?
2. How should the chores be divided up?
3. Are you a night owl or an early bird?
4. How often should a house be cleaned in your opinion?
5. On a scale of one to five how important is a clean house?
6. What type of décor do you prefer? (Contemporary, country, modern, etc.)
7. What are your favorite colors for a home?
8. Where would your dream house be located?
9. Which television shows do you feel are “can't miss” shows?
10. Do you want a pet?
11. If so, what type of pet?
12. Should pets be inside or outside only?

Parenting

1. How many children do you want to have?
2. How long should a couple be married before having their first child?
3. How should discipline be handled?
4. Who should be the final authority in the home?
5. Should one parent give up their career to parent the children?
6. If so, which parent should it be?
7. If a child is sick and both parents work who stays home with her?
8. Public, private, or home school?

Finances

1. How should financial decisions be made?
2. If an agreement can't be reached who gets final say?
3. What type of investing should be done?
4. How much money should go in to savings?
5. How much should go to charity, tithing, or social support issues?
6. Should finances be kept separate or pooled together?
7. Who balances the checkbook?
8. How do you feel about credit and debt?
9. How should retirement be funded?

Religion

1. Should the wedding ceremony be held in a church?
2. If so, what denomination?
3. If a couple is of different religions should one change to the other's religious preference?
4. If a couple is of different religions which should the children be raised in?
5. What religious holidays should be celebrated?
6. If one partner has dietary restrictions because of their religion should both follow those food laws?

Extended Family

1. How should extended family be handled?
2. How often should a couple spend time with parents/siblings/in-laws?
3. Where should holidays be spent?
4. If holidays are to be spent with family how should that be arranged in order to be kept “fair”?

Difficult, but Important Questions

1. If there was an accident would you want to be on life support?
2. Do you want to donate organs?
3. Who should be named as guardian of the children?
4. Do you want to be buried or cremated?
5. If your heart stops do you want to be resuscitated?

Why Ask Questions?

So why should you ask pre marriage questions?

A relationship is different before marriage, even if you have lived together for some time. Over a period of years, things that seemed not to be an issue at first may become a problem. If you ask questions, talk about your answers and solve potential problems before they happen you have a better chance of working through problems that do come up. This whole process will be a learning experience in itself to learn how the two of you deal with differences.

For more questions to get to know each other better try 100 Questions Before Marriage, 100 Questions to Know Someone Better, and 20 Questions to Get to Know Someone.